She Knows

to give the gift of saying thank you


We lost our Aunt Kay this month.

She reached out to me at age 13, when my mother died and gave me quality time. We would often talk about what it takes to be in charge of your own life. When I got sick, Aunt Kay spent several summers giving my daughter Brittany, what I could not and I am sure they had many similar conversations.

During a recent trip back home, we all spent an afternoon together and  I was able to explain to her how her gift of time and love had become a part of who I am. Even though I am saddened and will dearly miss her, I am not agonized by the pain of unsaid words. My heart is peaceful knowing that she knows.

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Bullying – misbehavior comes from someone who needs to be taught

To an angry, tearful mother whose autistic child was being bullied: Rise above and tuck your pain back in your heart to be soothed by those that love you. Defensiveness doesn’t belong here.

Native tradition remind us that misbehavior comes from someone who needs to be taught. Parenthood has already brought you strength and courage. Craft your words.  Educate, and you will develop the skill to tactfully and boldly make the world a better place.

As you get better at this, you will actually look forward to these encounters as your child’s differences bring opportunities for you to soften hearts and lessen the cruelties of this harsh world.

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